When the door of opportunity swings open, it also makes room for adversaries. Whenever you advance or claim new ground, you'll face opposition: complications arise, unfair situations occur, people wrong you, some try to discourage you, and misunderstandings abound. The sour and bitter voices are ever-present, ready to complain. However, those who achieve their destiny remain unfazed by obstacles. They understand that setbacks are merely setups for something greater.
I’ve heard that an eagle can fly at heights that a crow cannot reach. There will always be some crows in your life pecking at you, trying to bait you into conflict. You probably have some crows at the office. One of your relatives may be a crow. You see them gathering anywhere there’s a feast on the ground.  The only way to argue with a crow is to sink down to their level, and if you find yourself in conflict, upset, or trying to prove your point, that's a sign you've come down too low. Don’t waste your time with the crows of life. You need to go back up where you belong. Rise above it.
Everyone should learn how to argue. I have a friend, Bo Seo, who literally wrote the book on arguing. He is a Korean-Australian journalist, author (see his book Good Arguments), Harvard University debate coach, and two-time world debating champion, Most of the lessons he teaches are about knowing what kind of argument you are in and when not to argue. Spoiler alert – most arguments are the dumb, pointless kind, and when not to argue is almost always.
Here’s Bo talking about disagreements as a source for good… if only we learn how to argue better.
Your time is too valuable to waste it with people that don't want to have peace. Don't argue with people who just want to argue. Don't argue politics with people who don’t want to change and learn.
Here’s Dan Cohen arguing that the better you get at arguing the more you lose… and the more you learn.
How do you know who the pointless arguers are? Just ask them. Most of the time they’ll tell you right out. Ask if there’s any condition, and information, any fact, that would ever change their mind. The crows will often answer loudly and proudly… No!
Most of us kind of know this instinctively. We avoid argument. Unfortunately, what that means is, that without the tools of the trade, we end up with arguing’s poor cousins, fussing and fighting.  It’s almost always better to keep your own conscience and let the other person be right.
Something is happening that's not fair? Don't get discouraged. Keep going. This valley is not your home. You're on the way. You were made to walk long distances and climb great mountains. It's all a part of the process. We all have opposition. Avoiding a fight is a mark of honour. Only a fool insists on arguing when it’s not needed. We all have people that come against us, and if you keep moving forward, you'll see you are going where you're supposed to be.